Cheating; When to Stay and When To Go

Are you wondering if you should leave your partner or spouse? Have you recently had suspicions of them cheating? Sometimes it is hard to tell what the right choice is and what the wrong choice is. When love comes into the equation the term “second chance” will be snatched up by the cheating partner. If they have done it more than once, your best bet might be to leave. If this is their first offense sit down and ask yourself, if you think the relationship can stand the storm.

Hard as it is to do, remember to accept the fact that you have caught your partner in this hurtful act of cheating. It is tragic, and it is a loss. But you need to push past that, in order to find out what you want to do. Once you’ve done this than you can sit down and fully make your decision alone. This is something you will have to do by yourself. Don’t let him or anyone else influence you. It is about your feelings for him and his with you. Not other people’s feelings for your cheating man.

Here are a few factors and questions that you should take into consideration when deciding whether you should stay or go and leave your cheating partner.

1. Did your partner acknowledge his mistake and the pain it has caused? Did they apologize and have you seen any effort on their part trying to save the relationship?
2. Has your spouse/partner cut all ties with the other party? This is a must – failing to make this step is an immediate fail. If this happens you should seriously consider leaving him.
3. Is your cheating partner or spouse willing to talk about what happened and try to learn from it?
4. Can you get yourself to stop suspecting them of another infidelity?
5. Do you think you can ever rebuild the trust in this relationship?
6. Is your partner or spouse willing to talk about boundaries and what's not acceptable vs. what's acceptable in your relationship going forward?
7. Have you discussed the issue of honesty and communication, as a basis for your relationship, rather than just a promise of staying faithful?
8. Are you willing to forgive him and move forward in the relationship, sometime in the future?

Always realize that it will take time to heal and move past this infidelity. If you choose to stay with the cheater, than know gaining trust back will not be an overnight thing. Choose the decision wisely and not out of anger. Take your time choosing to leave or to stay. The decision is ultimately yours.